Do you have 10 free seconds? Maybe 30 seconds or even a minute? Do one of these to make your marriage happier! We all want to be loved and appreciated right? As mostly moms that read this, and the fact that I am a mom, I think I can say we can feel overwhelmed at times with mom duties, taking care of littles, cleaning the house, making dinner, running kids around, the list goes on and on.
How much do we love it when our spouse takes a few seconds and lets us know they appreciate us and all we do? IT MEANS A TON RIGHT? That little thank you can give us the strength to keep going for the next week!
Guess what? MEN ARE NO DIFFERENT!
They need us to love them and appreciate what they do too. Usually they do things different than us, they may go to school, or work or both. They may have callings at church that have a million meetings. They are busy too and just like we can feel overwhelmed and underappreciated, so can our husbands.
So what can we do?
Well if you have 10 seconds or even 30 or maybe a minute! ( the minutes feel rare, but you can find them! ) You can do some simple things to let them know we appreciate them, though they are very easy to do, they also make a HUGE difference!
I want to share 5 easy ones that take about ten seconds to do, there a few that you can do longer if you want! Are you ready for a happier marriage? Keep reading!
1: Send them a quick I love you text
This doesn’t need to be super long or wordy, if you only have 10 seconds, run with it girl! A quick thinking about you, or can’t wait for you to come home so I can hug you.( make sure you include why you want them to get home, like to hug you or kiss you, I made the mistake of just writing can’t wait till you get home, and he responded “why? what happened?’ haha! So add the why.) That only takes a few seconds and trust me it brightens anyone’s day to know they are being thought of.
2:If you are out running errands, grab a little treat for them
Again, not a super hard thing to do, and it does not need to be expensive. ( budgets are tight,right?) but dig in your car if you need to, or grab some change you find in the couch. but get their favorite candy bar, or pop. Just a little something to say you are thinking of them. Bonus! Maybe they will share with you! Wait for them to offer…. you know, don’t just start eating it, cause if that happens you may end up eating the whole thing, and then you’re like ” sorry, I did not mean to do that…..” Not saying that has happened….. what? Moving on….
3:Go grab them and Just HUG them for 30 seconds
Yes, 30 full seconds, research has shown how a 30 second hug does wonders for our stress levels and health of our bodies. SO do it, and ignore the chaos around you, kids trying to talk to you, pulling on your shirt, just close your eyes and hug and breathe….. ahhhhhhh. Sweet serenity for 30 seconds, unless a kid is hurt, bleeding or falling off something high, HUG!!! The more we touch, the more connected we will feel!
4: Write a quick note, leave it somewhere they will find it!
THIS IS SO EASY GUYS! You can do this anywhere and anytime! Put it on the bed for when they get home, put it in their lunch or on the computer, leave a note in their car. Mike left me notes in the pantry once, why? Well he knew I would be in there and for sure see it! So put a note somewhere, and it does not need to be a long drawn out note, things like I love you, thank you for working so hard, thank you for loving me, thank you for being a great dad, or fun ones like, I love your bum, or I love kissing you, or can’t wait to kiss you. Just write them something! This is not the same as a text, this is to be a physical note, there is a difference!
5:Remind them of a special moment that includes a song.
What this means is send them a link to your wedding song, or a special song that has been in your life. We have the Meier Family Soundtrack so I could play any of those songs and it means something special. From our very first dance ever, to first dance as a married couple, to one of our children’s songs. So find some music that means something and if you don’t have a “song” Go find one that means or says how you feel and make it your song! If they are near you, play the song and slow dance for a few seconds. I know it is kinda impossible to slow dance a whole song at home with kids running around. That must be why I love weddings so much…. a chance to slow dance and well eat… how can you go wrong with both of those??? Back to the music. If you aren’t near them, send a link or a snippet of the song and write something like “remember this or loved being in your arms, or still feel the same”. Something that reminds them of that special moment. That only takes a few seconds and once you remind them of a special moment, that thinking of that moment will last longer than ten seconds.
So there you go, 10 seconds? Boom, happier marriage!
These don’t take much time but really can make a difference. Not only in how you make your spouse feel, but I have found it makes you feel an increase in love for them. When ever we are doing service towards someone, or caring about their needs, we will be reminded of good feelings and love for that person. As you hug them, or write a note, or listen to that special song, you are looking and remembering the good in them, the good in you as a couple. We need more of that always! AND let’s be real, who doesn’t want their marriage to be happier and always improving.
I have this picture that I gave Mike one year just because, and it is so true, and the love I feel for him, just gets deeper and stronger every single day. I believe it is because we are constantly working on it and looking for those ten seconds to make things better and happier and deeper. I honestly still wake up so grateful to be his wife, it is possible, we have had our hard times, but we never gave up. These little things have helped me to continue to see the good and have reminded me of so much of the good.
I would love to hear what you do when you have those 10 seconds? And I would love to hear what your song is, those are the neatest moments in a wedding to me, what song did they pick and why? Some really beautiful songs out there!
So take a few seconds, I am working on a ten second I love you for kids! Hopefully that will be here soon! The blog is coming back, just please be patient, still learning the whole 8 kids, husband working, callings at church, about to go back to school….. eek! I love that you come to hear me ramble and I love that you are part of my fabulous chaos!! So share your tips and your song!
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